Do you know what a child molester looks like? The image conjured in your head looks ugly and menacing. Penetrating eyes staring into your soul with no shame or remorse. Perhaps a pock-marked face and greasy, unkempt hair.
You can spot a predator easily.
Can’t you?
The fact of the matter is a person who can take advantage of a minor is rarely spotted before they have done irreversible damage with unthinkable acts.
The predator could even be Milkshake Duck- an individual who is initially thought of in a positive way but later revealed to have some serious faults.
A study from the University of Windsor in Canada found that a large portion of male predators are left handed and have minor physical flaws on their face and neck. This indicates that specific aspects of neural development can affect one’s risk for pedophilic tendencies. But it is important to note that not all men with superficial facial flaws have these tendencies.
The child predator can even be a female.
The cleanly pressed, soft spoken woman next door whom you’ve known for years. The lady who works at the bank who always remembers your name with a smile. Although men perpetrate almost 95% of offenses against children, the women are far more calculating and manipulative.
Although some predators exhibit no observable behavior pattern that would act as a clue, many behavioral indicators are shared amongst people who prey upon children, including:
Are aware of their impulses toward children before they reach age 18
Tend to be married and/or have a family
Relate better with children than adults and are comfortable with kids and their interests
Have few close adult friends
Tend to prefer minors of a certain age group
Usually prefer one gender over the other, however some are bisexual in their preference
Seek volunteer or employment opportunities with programs involved with kids in the age group of their preference
Pursue children for sexual purposes but may become emotionally attached to the extent that their emotional needs are met through engaging in relationships with the child
Photographs or collects photographs of many children in any state of dress or undress
Posses alcohol or drugs to furnish to victims to gain “friendship” or lower inhibitions
Speaks with children in a way that equalizes their relationship
Talks about children in a way they would about their adult significant other
May offer childcare or to take minors on trips in order to manipulate situations so as to be near them
May be found hanging around parks, playgrounds, arcades, and anywhere their preferred age group likes to congregate
Always be aware and stay safe. And listen to your instincts- they never lie :)
Sources: Burnsville Police Department, U of Windsor, TheBlaze.com. Images: Pexels
Most often, that someone is either a family member or an acquaintance, such as a coach, counselor, priest or teacher. So ironically, when we put our kids into educational programs and organized sports to keep them safe, we may actually be putting them in more danger than if they were just playing outside with their friends.
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Unfortunately this is disgusting accurate.
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We tend to trust people around us but I think we must remain cautious about every one around. Thanks
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Very true, I was a victim as a child and people never believed my story because the guy was "great" with children and got along with them. These are the warning signs that can be overlooked. It just goes to show you can never really know anybody
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So true. That's usually how it goes. I was the a victim of a sweet talking, always what you need when you need, helpful to a fault, commiserating to where they had been thru everything I had, nice and seemingly kind shyster who is the most destructive and manipulative individual I've ever encountered.
You never truly know anyone...
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predators follow the prey.
children group in public schools
ever wonder about teachers?
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True story.
Oh I've definitely wondered about a couple of the teachers at my boys schools over the years...
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home school...keep em safe.
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I did. First one was my middle son after he tried to burn down his school in 4th grade- he told the fire chief he did it so the kids would have to go to other schools where teachers actually care. Second was my oldest son after he was smack in the middle of a school shooting, then lastly the youngest had to do it too. He couldn't be difference from his big brothers :)
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good for you.
if you want something done right.
do it yourself.
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This was difficult to read but a a good post. It’s important to be aware of these things, even though we wish such people did not exist.
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Exactly.
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An incredible story, we have to be aware of our children and students, there are always people who want to take advantage of the little ones, an alert to parents and teachers. Thanks for sharing, I imagine it is difficult to say something like that and more to write it.
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It is difficult, but I believe the public needs to be aware. I'm all for sharing- the more people talk the more comfortable victims feel coming forward, and the more we can open healthy lines of communication.
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Good post sir 💪
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Thanks, But I'm a female :)
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Thank you for the very helpful knowledge that you had shared with us, now I'll become more observant 😘😁😊
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You are very welcome!
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