BEING OBEDIENT PARENTS

in steemiteducation •  7 years ago 

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Children are like small plant that you plant. You have to feed them nurture them love them so that they can grow. If you forget to water your plants they die, that is not what happens to children but they do become scared and wonder how to survive. 

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Children are just like this little poem says. Their parents bring them to school with a lot of confidence in the teacher that is why we must treat all children the same. 

Some need more nurturing as they do not always understand immediately what you are trying to teach them, but others need extra work as they understand very quickly. Give them something nice to keep them busy  so you have tim to help the slower one easier. 

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This is the way life works, we are not all the same but we are all human. 

If we are not all fast, it does not make us a bad person it just makes us different. That is why teachers should be very patient. 

I always say there are two jobs where the workers need their own children one is teaching the other is nursing. I have seen so often when teachers have their own children they have a total personality change towards the kids in the class. 

It is because they now know how it feels to have a child. It is such a blessing, and they will now treat their children in the class the way they want their children to be treated. 

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I personally find that children are wonderful, especially if they were loved and nurtured as babies. 

There is one bad thing that I have noticed lately. Maybe it is because we are not allowed to look after children the way we were when I was young. 

I did not let a child tell me what he wants to do and never stood for any tantrums. 

Now I do not know how to handle them as the law prohibits us from doing anything to a children like shout, or maybe a little bit of corporal punishment. The one thing I notice is all these parents who do just what their children want, I suppose it is to prevent tantrums and shouting from children, but being obedient parents will not teach a child to become a good person. 

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So somehow we must find a way of teaching children manners and being respectful without the law stepping in. 

I hope someone will come up with a solution, because I really do not have one and there are so many obedient parents lately that I really feel sorry for them. 

I see this in shops and places where parents cannot call time out as they are in a situation where this is impossible.

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So if someone has a good idea of how to teach children now, without punishment please tell me about it as I see so many children just doing what they want without any respect for older people.

 Hope you enjoyed my story and may you have a wonderful day.

   

   


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  ·  7 years ago Reveal Comment

Thank you for resteem and upvote you are very kind.

wow... any time i find my self here i know i will always see something nice to see.. train up a child the way he should grow and when his old he will not deviate from it...... i love it........ resteemed by me (GREEN LANTERN) REASONS WHY, YOU HELP SAVE THE WORLD TOO.
by @steve1122

Thank you for being so kind to me, and thank you for the resteem I really appreciate it.

Teaching a small kid is harder than teaching a class of senior high school students. Only a mother can do that because Mother is the best teacher in the world.

This is so true, mothers do try their best.

dear @bigbear.. i read your post..i liked it..
thank for sharing with us....

Thank you very much.

great job.

Thank you love your birds.

Yesterday I missed you a lot
very good job dear @bigbear
I like children
and follow mom and dad
I like your post dear
#I love your post dear

Thank you so much had a little problem with the internet so posted very late so sorry.

Children are follow
Their mom and dad
They will learn what they do
so parents should be careful with children
good job dear
@bigbear

Agree do your best, that is all we can do.

A helpful post
thank you for sharing
I loove this post so much
everyone should follow this
dear @bigbear

Very nice painting you have at your post.

i love your post

Thank you so much for reading my post.

woooooooow nice post...I Like your post

Thank you so much I really appreciate you reading it.

Good read

Thank you.

I think you are absolutely right in that every child is different. My oldest is only 6 and my youngest is 2, but I already see their little personalities. They have developed into them already.

My oldest is what I like to call a carrot child. She responds well to incentive. If she is promised free time after she does her chores/responsibilities, then she always does what she is told. She is motivated, and she is very well behaved in school and at home.

My 4 year old is a stick child. It doesn't matter what rewards or incentives exist for him, he does not care. He is only persuaded my reprimand. I hate this, but it works. He is a bit more of a wild child and would continue to attempt to do dangerous things if I did not raise my voice and get angry with him. I never hit him, but I am able to reason with him after yelling/putting him in time out. I NEVER have to do this with my daughter, and never did when she was this age either.

My two year old is still too young to really reprimand. She is impossible to reason with, and as soon as I would begin to punish her from something, she wouldn't even be able to correlate why she was being yelled at with what she did. I believe she will be more like my 4 year old though because she too is a risk taker. I would rather have them be mad at me for getting angry, than have them hurt themselves.

I definitely think physical punishment can be avoided, and by a certain age, most children are mature enough to be reasoned with.

Even my 4 year old, if he seems to be on the verge of a tantrum, I simply ask him what's wrong. Sometimes he is just frustrated that something isn't going right, or he is thirsty or hungry. I try to remember how hard it is sometimes to be a child and not be under your own control. Having to ask for everything, and not always being able to be clear about what you want. Now this isn't the same as a tantrum in a store with a child not getting what they want etc, but I bet even in those instances there is a more underlying issue going on, ie hunger, thirst, fatigue etc. (Granted some kids are just brats but I like to try to give parents the benefit of the doubt.)

Anyway, just thought I would offer some personal perspective on this. I am happy to have come across this post. I don't see much about parenting on here and sometimes it feels like a very lonely journey!

This has been a wonderful perspective, my small little reason. Remember he is a boy, we see this so oftern they have to be manly and show their personality, be glad he does not sit in a corner and sulk and be a sissy at least he is showing you he is a boy. I must say that they should be handled a little stricter as they will make your life a living hell untill he knows who is boss.

As a parent it is really hard for us on where we should stand sometimes. Our standards may not be the same as other parents that it may end up us being criticized by others.

We just all try our best dont you think?

Yes dear, we just needed to do our best. After all, it's still our children who can benefit from all our hardships.

i know your post is very importent for me

Thank you very much, I never miss yours either.

I think you are absolutely right in that every child is different,,,so every mother need to be prepared

Thank you for agreeing I just love children.

i hear you ! the struggle is def. real !
I face this with my baby girl trying to teach her proper manners and to raise her well. It is tough i tell you :)

I feel sorry for you, as this is the hardest job in the world and if you are successful it is such a wonderful feelling you will not believe me.

Nice post. As a mother I do appreciate this (part of learning process and accepting great ideas from the post and comments).. Great and I love it.. hope to read more about parenting and hope to share also my thoughts one of this day.. Thanks to you @bigbear and God bless you.

Thank you so much roselyn028 we do not get a manuel so we learn by process and may God bless you as well.

This post is so touching :)
Thank you for sharing.

Thank you for reading you are so kind.

My pleasure 😊

Very interesting post education and be always there with the children even after they grow up is very important so that they are always on the side of the well greetings thanks

Thank you very true.

dear @bigbear i read your post thanks for shere with us

  ·  7 years ago (edited)

Only my pleasure thanks for reading.

very wonderful story. Child so cute

Thank you so very much.

I watched one of the reality show about raising children before,
They didnt teach their children with the word punishment, but change it with reponsibility.

For example when their children massed up the kitchen, they not punish the kids with a scary ways, but they ask the kids to helping together for clean up the messed tht they did and cleaning the kitchen together, tell them to be reponsibility for what they did before and what to do next.

That is a wonderful way to handle it. I have never heard this but a wonderfull way to teach children.

Yaa maybe it will work for some child, because the caracter of every kids are different, not all the same way can work to all kids..☺️

Indeed a pretty blog. Well written

Thank you so much.

miss you very much.. dear @bigbear

That is nice upvoted you.