Finding Purpose

in life •  6 years ago 

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In a conversation with my brother Yesterday evening, I was talking about how job related pressure was getting to me, and how I wanted out. It may have been a bit surprising seeing as I pursued the job pretty seriously and gleeful resigned from my previous working engagement. Haven spent just a month and two weeks post 3 month Training, my brother was having none of it.

"You are what you do", was the most striking statement he made in our conversation and keeps ruminating in my thoughts. While I initially strongly disagreed, it didn't take too long before my thoughts started analyzing and philosophizing the statement.

We are indeed defined primary by what we do, regardless of whatever we think of ourselves. Like it or not that identity shapes our behaviors, and determines the kind of life we live - from relationships to choices. It is considered abnormal to deviate from this identity all in the name of stamping our individuality, so we are compelled to go with a chosen flow, making the initial identity all the more important.

How many of us can truly say we have lived life according to our wishes? Many of us are simply swooped along with the flow and take whatever we can get. While it isn't bad to simply go with the flow, it does feel somehow special to have a solid identity from the onset.

Unfortunately at this instance I may not know what that feels like, as my efforts at living consciously keeps failing. Right now I will probably be known as the identity thrown on me by life through my work.

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Humans shouldn't lose defeat so early. Should be done by the courage to try

Isn't it funny how an off hand comment like that can make you stop in your tracks and think? Often what we initially react strongly against has some element of truth.

whats for you wont pass you by

Thank you dear

Also remember that life is a journey and you don't have to have it all figured out now. Just try to make the best decisions you can right now and improve those decisions as you get more information/experience.

"We are indeed defined primary by what we do, regardless of whatever we think of ourselves. Like it or not that identity shapes our behaviors, and determines the kind of life we live - from relationships to choices."

I think, the reality is the opposite of this. Of course, i experienced it in my life in my case, so isnt sure, this works in everyone's case.

So, the choices are the origo, the starting point.
Everything depend on our choices. We can do this or do that or do nothing, or do anything. We can react in this way, that way, or not react.
And when we make our decisions, we can shape our behavior, based that choice.
In same case, in same circumstances, more times we can make different choices and decisions, what lead different behavior and lead different results. And if we know, what kind of result is, what we want, moving backward we can realize, what kind of choices need that result. We can modifying our behavior or view or acting, depend that, what we want.

So i think, we aren't that, what we do. Its just the first step on the road to result.
We are our results and its mean, we are our wishes. Accomplished or missed wishes.

Indeed it all depends on our choices

I would take it even further and say you are what you experience.

Our reactions to our experience is what shapes our lives. I guess this is sort of a buddhist perspective.

I feel like I am going through this issue of not knowing who I am, myself at the moment. When it comes to work, I just don't enjoy it anymore. And I have always loved programming!

I kind of get the feeling that if we can't be happy now, in this moment, then no amount of change will make us that way. It is all perspective.

I feel like I am going through this issue of not knowing who I am, myself at the moment.

You are not alone.

I kind of get the feeling that if we can't be happy now, in this moment, then no amount of change will make us that way. It is all perspective.

Indeed. Trying to change our perspective is the really difficult

howdy there empress-eremmy! wow very fine post, very thought-provoking and look at the great comments, good job!

Keep looking for another identity that might suit you better...

I've been going through a bit of confusion as to how I think of myself lately too. Which I would never have pegged myself to experience. Life is crazy like that, you never know what the next phase of life holds for you. Living consciously is so much harder than it sounds. One thing that has given me happiness lately is to just stop and feel that still, calm person that is inside me - the one that has always been there. That is the only real part, I think. The rest changes with the times and the influences a bit, but is ultimately controlled by that one central, calm place that is the authentic you. I'm rambling so I'm not sure any of that made sense :)

Makes a lot f sense to me.

One thing that has given me happiness lately is to just stop and feel that still, calm person that is inside me - the one that has always been there.

I wish I can reach out to mine

Sometimes I can, sometimes I can't. The can't times suck.