If you prioritise the happiness of others over your own in your relationships, if you only feel good about yourself when you receive external praise, you may be suffering from a form of narcissism.
If you frequently say yes in order to avoid offending people when you really want to say no, this is a bad sign.
You will be injured even though your point of view is correct, if you apologise too often and do not take a step back to avoid getting wounded.
"The disease of trying to please everyone" has already come at your doorway, and you are happily welcoming its presence there.
Of course, at some point in our lives, we all want to make the people in our lives happy; this serves as a type of motivation. Scientists, on the other hand, believe that if we fail to hit the goal, we may develop "pleasing illness," often known as the disease of pleasing others.
Now, let's have a look at the three most prevalent symptoms together...
We seek out the opinions of others on everything from the photo we publish on social media to the letter we write to a celebrity or public figure we like. Because of this, even while making life-altering decisions, we place greater emphasis on the views of others than on our own thoughts and feelings. As a means of avoiding the stress that comes with having a disagreement with someone else, the brain has developed this strategy. It is considered that we do this because we prioritise their desires in order to ensure that we are liked, enjoyed, and approved by everyone. But if we place a strong emphasis on our own happiness, the decisions we make, the signals we send, and the actions we perform will completely represent our own personalities, resulting in a life of great contentment and enjoyment with ourselves.
This is a situation that many of us have found ourselves in at some point. Throughout the day throughout the course of our life, there were invitations we didn't want to accept, circumstances we didn't approve of, and moments where we appeared to think something was okay even though we didn't really believe it was. When we put the happiness of others at the centre of our lives, we unintentionally say "yes" to them, but in doing so, we do ourselves a tremendous injustice by doing so. We must, however, keep in mind that life is about finding a healthy balance and that we must prioritise our own desires.
When we look at people who claim to be happy because they are pleasing others, we usually observe two types of human profiles emerge. Individuals who gain significance from the opinions of others about themselves without fully comprehending or understanding themselves are classified as the first type of person. Because they do not value themselves as highly as they should, individuals in the second group prioritise the happiness of others over their own well-being in order to feel better about themselves.
As in the first example, the individual does not fully comprehend himself, and at the end of the day, he makes others happy at the expense of his or her own happiness. This is due to the fact that the environment is generally not recognised as a high priority. This leads to the person wondering, "Why doesn't anyone care about me when I try to please everyone?" and ultimately demotivates them further.
In the event that even one of these sentences pertains to you or sounds similar, it's time to put yourself first in your daily life. In order to do so, you must first embark on a journey to better understand yourself and find what it is that truly brings you happiness. The moment you become conscious of your own existence, you will realise that your life is already pleasurable.
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