Today there is a lot of talk about self-development, human development , transformation. How to improve performance. Time is like that. In a rapidly changing world, a person must comply with the spirit of the times. There are many salespeople - trainers offering to change your life, improve your social effectiveness.
There is a demand - there is a product. People attend trainings, but there are no significant changes in their lives. What's the matter? Where is the dog buried?
Let's try to consider one of the hypotheses of predictability of human behavior and the possibility of changing oneself. We will consider the change in the methods of orientation in our internal and external reality as the criterion of development . How we act in the social space to achieve our goals and how to improve the efficiency of our activities .
Man is a living open system. How I relate to myself is the same as I am to the World.
In the process of socialization, a person creates a mechanism of relationships with the surrounding society - a system of social orientation. A person at the level of personality forms three systems: a system of requirements, expectations and compliance. The social orientation system determines with the help of which set of actions a person moves towards his goal.
The system of requirements is standards from a human point of view. Requirements for him from the people around him. These are requirements in the form of self-evident values and norms.
Expectation system - relationships with others and with oneself. What and how we expect in the future. Where did these expectations come from? Who's waiting?
From socionics, we know 16 types of work of the existing mechanism of information metabolism - a way of perception, processing and delivery of information, which works in an automatic mode. The illusion is created that this mechanism is the reason why a person acts in this way.
But in reality, it is just a trigger for action. And the system of social orientation is a mechanism of practical actions . It also works in automatic mode. Without changing the system of requirements and compliance, it is impossible to change your life and what we mean - human development.
We need practices that help reflect on the content of orientation systems. Only by analyzing and comparing the selection of actions to achieve the goal, it is possible to study the system of social orientation. These mechanisms are difficult to reflect.
Having mastered the skills of reflection, you will be able to do independent work to determine the content of orientation systems and make the necessary adjustments. This work is purely independent and no one can do it for you. That is why there is no real change in man and his development in our context.
Many leaders and bosses naively believe that a person can be changed and developed by changing his system of values. Leaders of MLM companies recommend their partners to act according to the principle “do as I do” - and you will succeed. Take an example from a successful leader, develop!
Followers try their best, but there is no result and development does not occur. This is because mentors do not have the necessary qualifications and knowledge. Human development is a complex and difficult "thing". You need to constantly make an effort. And do it right.
This post has received a 58.57 % upvote from @boomerang.
Downvoting a post can decrease pending rewards and make it less visible. Common reasons:
Submit