I'm sure most parents will agree that being a mom or dad is one of the most amazing and important tasks we have to do in life. Many smart and useful books have been written on this topic, explaining literally every nuance of parenting.
But there are several important secrets of this process that you will not read about on the pages of books. Their knowledge will help you not only to raise your children correctly, but also to get mutual pleasure from it.
All parents sometimes lose patience
Being a parent means doing tremendous emotional, mental and sometimes physical work. Your efforts will not always be appreciated and you will see an instant return on them. Sometimes, on the contrary, we meet such fierce resistance that our hands give up.
Therefore, it is quite natural that sometimes there is a desire to lose your temper and give free rein to your emotions. Do not hold back and throw out everything that has accumulated. If this is not done, the consequences will be much worse.
Many parents, especially young ones, believe that under any circumstances they should love their child and show this love to him in every possible way. This is not true.
Sometimes children turn into real monsters that can infuriate even a meditation champion. Of course, you should not immediately take them to the shelter because of this, but you need to show your real feelings.
Children should have time to be independent
If you constantly run and take care of your child, then it’s ridiculous to demand independence and self-sufficiency from him. Constant help hinders the emergence of the ability to overcome difficulties and the development of creativity .
Therefore, be sure to deliberately leave children alone so that they can find something to do and entertain themselves without help.
As important as the task of raising children is, you can get tired of it too. Let your children read, paint, play with toys while relaxing, meditating, or just watching TV. Let them know that your time is inviolable and cannot be interrupted by their screams or regular wishes.
Proper nutrition starts at an early age
Many parents, especially grandmothers, have completely wild ideas about baby food. Yes, it has its own characteristics, but this does not mean that the child needs to be fed with chips , pies and ice cream.
Very often you can observe a picture when parents are trying to observe some dietary restrictions for themselves, and their children are fed with all advertised nasty things, justifying this with the words: "Eat while you are young, you can still." This is completely unacceptable.
Being a parent is not a punishment. This does not mean at all that you should give up your personal life and completely dissolve in nurturing and caring. If you sometimes go to the cinema, club, visit friends or the stadium yourself, it will not make you instantly a bad dad or mom! Just strike a reasonable balance.
Sometimes you have to apologize
You will make mistakes more than once with your child. There are no people who never make mistakes.
There will be unfair decisions, unfounded reprimands, just awkward movements. And the best thing that can be done after that to restore faith in justice is to simply apologize. Although sometimes it is not easy at all.
Within one day, but what a day there - one hour! - you can several times fall into the abyss of disappointment and rise to the heavens of jubilation. With an interval of 10 minutes, you can experience a surge of severe anger, which will immediately be replaced by a burst of tears of emotion.
These are perfectly normal emotions that all normal parents experience. If you feel that you are not coping with it, and your reactions become too aggravated, then it is time to seek help and take a short (or long) time out. If you continue to rape yourself and your psyche, then this can harm not only you, but also your child.
You will always compare your child and the result will always be the same, Your child is great. He is the fastest, most intelligent, agile and quick-witted. And if someone has doubts about this, then it is obviously just out of envy.
And, you know, in this you are absolutely right.
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I love it, this is so true.
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