Being accountable allows us to handle our frustrations and resentments in a constructive manner by owning our morals and values.
A healthy sense of self does not concern itself with feelings of being better or worse than others. Its main goal is to act rightly, and by taking charge of our choices, we cultivate a strong sense of self.
In contrast, an unhealthy sense of self often shifts blame or sees itself as a victim, which leads to negative consequences. This results in a cycle of blaming either ourselves or someone else, or feeling sorry for ourselves.
When we continually blame others or see ourselves as victims, our sense of self deteriorates further, making it harder to accept responsibility and extending emotional suffering.
Create a list of things you find hard to accept responsibility for. Choose one issue to focus on first. Consider whether the cause of the issue arises from feelings of being superior, inferior, or from complex moral questions.
Once you've identified why it's an issue, acknowledge the result and explore what you can do next. Take action on what is within your control, even if it feels daunting, and take ownership of your role in resolving the situation.
Blaming ourselves and feeling like victims are unhealthy responses, whereas accountability serves as a strong remedy. It allows us to recognize our impact in any situation and how our actions can help resolve issues.
Understanding personality is key to recognizing how we engage with the world and identify ourselves. A crucial point to grasp about our identities is that we are shaped by our thoughts about ourselves.
We possess the ability to be whoever we choose. Often, it is believed that we are shaped by family, society, culture, religion, work, childhood, and other outside influences. While these factors play a significant role, what truly matters is our interpretation of them; if there's something we dislike about ourselves, we can change it.
However, by distancing ourselves from our personality, which we often see as our identity, we can release beliefs that prevent us from becoming who we wish to be. To move beyond our personality, we must be aware of our:
After becoming aware of these elements, let go of those that no longer serve you by adopting new perspectives. This process can be straightforward if we accept that we are shaped by our thoughts.
Ask yourself why you see yourself as you do, and why you believe you cannot be different, and do the same for opposing views.