How to Increase Self-Compassion in Our Life?

Most of us believe that being kind to ourselves is the solution to the question, "What is self-compassion?" Naturally, this idea might not be wholly incorrect.

To be more precise, self-compassion can be described as an awareness that supports our ability to manage challenging emotions, be emotionally adaptable, and form positive relationships with everyone—including ourselves.

For instance, we approach a buddy who has made a mistake with compassion and understanding. It is harder to be compassionate towards ourselves when the same circumstances arise.

We often become a little harsher or more critical of ourselves when we are confronted with our blunders. We mould our ideas and actions into something that devalues, embarrasses, and disappoints ourselves.

Let's consider an example of a hypothetical chat we might have had with our close buddy following her boyfriend's breakup:

We were going to celebrate our fifth anniversary when he left me. I feel so depressed and hopeless. He claimed that I didn't trust him and that he was sick of being with me all the time, even though I truly loved him.

She was quite entitled to abandon you. She moved on from you because you were boring and overbearing. Not to mention the way you behave as though you are reliant on her by calling her nonstop.

If I were you, I wouldn't hold out hope that I would win someone over once more.

How would we discuss this with a close friend? Naturally, no. But this is how we may converse with ourselves.

Nonetheless, we can develop a self-compassionate dialogue with ourselves, just as we would with our closest friend, if we are aware of "what is self-compassion?" For instance, this is how we typically greet a friend:

I'm devastated to learn of this. Please never forget that you can reach me at any time via phone. I'm here for you. How can I assist you? We'll get through this together; grieving is a natural reaction to loss. There will be more days of sunshine and beauty.

During these moments, it feels good to understand the definition of self-compassion, to be kind to ourselves, and to see our experiences as a necessary component of being human.

We can say inspiring things like, "You have the power to do this, take action," when we have a high level of self-compassion.

On the other side, when we say things like, "This is very difficult for you to do," when presented with challenges, our stress level rises. We may be unable to build positive relationships with others and ourselves as a result of this stress.

Therefore, when facing challenging circumstances, it may be more advantageous to turn to self-compassion practices for assistance.

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