Why Self-Esteem is Important and Its Dimensions

Have you ever wondered where self-esteem comes from and how it affects our lives? There are three levels of self-esteem: normal (adequate), underestimated (when we belittle our abilities and qualities) and overestimated (when we are self-confident for no apparent reason, selfish). Of these, only normal contributes to our harmonious development, the other two lead to the world of illusions.

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Guess who is the most infallible and sober evaluator of your own self? This is a child. He is completely confident in his uniqueness and uniqueness... He is free from doubts, fears, uncertainty, assessments of others, does not notice sidelong glances. He's just who he is. He believes that this is good, and as evidence he receives confirmation of boundless love from his parents and relatives.

This is just an example of normal, adequate self-esteem. Low self-esteem - when we start to perceive ourselves critically, we stop loving ourselves. Maybe it was our parents who inspired us, maybe our work colleagues, bosses, maybe friends and girlfriends, neighbors. But the fact remains - we believed it.

They believed that we were worse, began to compare ourselves with someone and, alas, not in our favor. Or, on the contrary, high self-esteem, when a person is constantly told that he is the best, that the whole world is only for him, that everything will be the way he wants.

If you often doubt yourself, are afraid to upset someone, think about others more than about yourself, feel shy, feel out of place, constantly look back at what they think of you, how it will look from the outside, do not know how accept gifts, compliments, it seems to you that you are not worthy, are afraid to talk about your desires, save on yourself, deny yourself in many ways, then this speaks of low self-esteem.

There can be a great variety of reasons for low self-esteem: age, presence / absence of a husband, children, social status, financial position, personal achievements, appearance, the list can be almost endless.

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As you can see, low self-esteem makes a person squeezed, leaving him aside. The result is dissatisfaction and a feeling of hopelessness.

If you are always sure of what you are doing, you think that the last word should remain with you, blame other people and / or the circumstances for all your troubles, if you do not know how to apologize and ask for forgiveness, if it is important for you to be the best and look ideal, but you are afraid to trust and do not like to show your weakness and defenselessness, you like to teach everyone, then these are sure signs that your self-esteem is overestimated.

After reading all of the above, you might be surprised to find that you have signs of both low and high self-esteem, but I'll tell you - this is normal. It's just that you are in an imbalance and easily slide one way or the other. How can we define normal, adequate self-esteem?

It says about her that you have your own opinion and you understand that other people have it too, you can listen to it and, if necessary, accept it. You can laugh at yourself. You can ask for advice, but in the end you rely on your opinion and in case of failure you take responsibility for yourself, and in case of victory you remember the other people who brought you to it.

You calmly accept criticism in your address and understand that you cannot please everyone, in general you do not have such a task. You know your strengths and weaknesses, you are able to accept compliments, gifts, appreciate all this and respond with gratitude.

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Now literally one recommendation. If you have low self-esteem, start celebrating your successes if you have coped with current tasks or mastered something new. You will notice that over and over again you begin to realize that you are capable of much, and self-esteem will begin to recover.

With an overestimated self-esteem, I would recommend learning to listen to people, letting them express their opinions, learning to be able to remain silent and ask for forgiveness. Just take the first step and the result will not be long in coming.

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