When you engage in a game that feels uncomfortable or unfulfilling, it often stems from trying to fit into a role that does not resonate with your true self. This disconnect can lead to frustration and ultimately make it difficult to continue playing the game over time.
In my observations, both personal and from stories shared by clients, a pattern emerges. The entire system seems to disintegrate when we stray from authenticity. This lack of truthfulness to our core values disrupts our experience.
Often, our ego overwhelms our inner voice. It pushes us into a default mode, where we mimic the behaviors of those around us, much like wolves howling in unison. Some of these voices are stronger and more confident, making it easy to feel overshadowed.
The sociologist Charles Horton Cooley offered a profound insight back in 1902. He stated, "I am not what I think I am, and I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am." This statement invites deep reflection and requires a moment of silence to truly understand its meaning.
Our self-image is largely shaped by how we believe others perceive us. In our efforts to conform to this imagined version of ourselves, we often lose sight of our true values. This chase for an unattainable ideal can lead to disappointment and a sense of emptiness.
The journey towards authenticity can feel long and frustrating when pursuing a mirage. However, once we start to acknowledge the noise created by our ego, we can listen more closely to our inner voice. As we do this, the fear of making bold moves or stepping into our true roles begins to fade away.
Transformational change in the workplace often hinges on our ability to be more mindful of our actions. This attentiveness lays the groundwork for identifying broader changes that can benefit the entire organization. Lasting change begins with self-reflection and adjusting our behavior.
Consider how you interact with your coworkers. Pay attention to how you organize meetings. Notice how often you pause to listen. Reflect on the questions you choose to ask. Be aware of whether your beliefs hold up to scrutiny or if they are merely assumptions. Think about how you nurture your own well-being and how you engage with yourself.
Many clients reach out to me with a desire to leave stable jobs. They express a vague feeling of something missing, often related to a need for better management. For instance, one client, who held a Vice President position, initially wanted to resign. After exploring her feelings, she chose to stay and develop a new business area she found more fulfilling.
Through this journey, clients often realize their potential has been stifled by limiting beliefs. They not only rediscover themselves but also unlock new opportunities that had been hidden from view. This process shows that true clarity and purpose can emerge when one becomes more grounded in their authentic self.