Grieving is a universal experience : Useful steps to successfully grieve

Grief recovery is not linear and applies to everyone differently. However, mourning has numerous steps.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, an American psychotherapist, defined five grief stages.

After a death or disappearance, people go through several psychological stages.

These grief stages compose the grief curve and are related with distinct types of grief. The phases one individual encounters may not be the same for another. Movement is fundamental to the stages and sorrow.

The first mourning phase is shock, which amazes. The person denies lo
ss and cannot accept reality. Sometimes she freezes and cannot react. She is in denial and sometimes disoriented.
Not longer than a week, this stage can last minutes or days. Grief often involves denial of death or loss.

The grieving individual finds it difficult to process the loss, especially if it happened quickly, like a loved one's suicide, or if she was close to the departed. Insurmountable loss might lead to pathological mourning.

Reality denial is the typical psychological response. Disbelief might lead to wrath or hostility. It's typical to struggle to accept the object's loss. The brain defends itself benevolently.

Due to the difficulty of accepting the terrible loss, shock occurs. The paradox of wanting the agony to end but focusing on the deceased or lost thing makes this phase difficult.

Accepting duality and welcoming these two states is the greatest way to handle this. Even if mourning is excruciating, we must honour it and whatever it creates inside us.

Grief cannot be addressed thus early. It is also premature to start therapy (perhaps emotionally focused supportive therapy to assist express and comprehend emotions) since the bereaved person needs time to process the loss.
Indeed, a difficult psychological process of misery and suffering follows this first stage.

The person will have to admit losing the item. She will need time to recognise the disappearance due to shock and denial.
She has moved past denial and astonishment. A new stage of anger takes over.

Deceased loved ones, spouses following separation (suffered or choice), or homes are all considered bereavement. Loss of a pet or job is another possibility. Some people feel distress from loss.

Grieving is private and unstructured. Time is incompressible and individual, so what lasts a year for some may take three for others.

Fast-tracking sorrow is impossible. Thus, each phase must be given its due and mourning stages respected.

A high sense of guilt is sometimes accompanied by a strong fury that borders on rage. Guilt can impair self-esteem.

Due to its intense emotional ambivalence, guilt is typically the hardest to overcome. It stops the bereaved from enjoying simple pleasures, even happiness. At this stage, laughter is as guilt-inducing as pleasure, seeing yourself progress, and experiencing relief.

Positive feelings about the loss heighten remorse, anguish, and resistance.

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