People who hold back, deprive themselves, fail to say what they want to say, and never act inappropriately are often sure they don't feel guilty because they think they're not at fault and haven't done nothing wrong. She's unaware that someone else leads her life.
His ego warns him not to do or say something because it's wrong. Her guard is usually up. Her ego prevents her from following her dreams and blames her if she does. You think you did "wrong" because of your ego. He lives exclusively in good and evil and refers only to past lessons.
Consider that losing weight makes you more attractive and wonderful. Your ego, which impacted your decision, has set the criterion. You can only eat so many calories, and there is a large list of foods to avoid, especially those starting with P. You feel bad whenever you defy authority.
To blame oneself is to feel bad for doing something wrong. Self-blame and judgement follow guilt.
Guilt helped us avoid it again. Have you noticed the reverse? At first, we can control ourselves, then we all lose it. You may think abstaining and controlling yourself will help you avoid guilt and judgement. Control is more harmful than helpful. Your shame is as strong as if you listened to your want, and the desire to do the opposite of your ego grows.
Everything we keep inside is destructive. This impacts behaviour and health. Gaining control in one area of life might lead to losing control in another. It's inevitable. ALL HAVE LIMITS. Once we approach our limitations, we act in a way that is so terrible that we may try to deny it and avoid responsibility. We ignore reality and hurt ourselves more.
This person typically defies reality. Her rigidity makes her think she has no right to feel sick. Not seeing ourselves as we are is self-rejection. Denying truth increases rejection and self-demand. So we're also cruel to ourselves.
You may recognise yourself in this case since you are unaware of your guilt. I propose noticing all the times you feel guilty. This is the only way you can direct your life and stop listening to your ego repeating family-passed views about good and evil.
Every attempt to deny guilt is detrimental. Long-term, these acts generate physical and relationship issues. We can even cause accidents as unconscious punishment. However, it can reveal guilt. I recommend asking yourself immediately after an accident or injury: What am I feeling guilty about? If you don't know, ask yourself: What have I avoided doing, speaking, or being for guilt?
I propose asking friends and family if you tend to reject what's happening and your guilt. A friend said, I know I'm cheating, but I gave myself a delicious dessert today. It's clear she feels guilty when hears cheat. She believed she permitted herself to do so and felt no guilt.
Know that letting your ego decide is not love. You're ignoring your necessities. Less you listen, more frustrated you get. You'll want others to offer you the affection you can't give yourself. We can only get true love from others if we love ourselves first.