Sometimes I feel like a different person, and I love it!
I've grown more calm and collected. I no longer lose sleep weighing pros and cons before making a decision. Even though I make decisions quickly. Wonderful feeling!
After a turbulent phase in my life that began at 37 and ended during the global pandemic, I now enjoy complete independence and liberation.
It feels like I've found independence, self-confidence, and honesty at 43. Without regret. Nothing to worry about. Avoiding offending. Without overthinking simple topics. I also showed nonchalance, unlike when I was 23. Joy! I never thought I would love my mid-40s so much at this age.
According to social worker and Living well with the midlife crisis author Judith Petitpas, answering questions, making decisions, and making adjustments will calm you down.
The scenario improves. We now understand one other better. Our method is more practical. We can speak our viewpoints, even in disagreements, and take full responsibility for the results. We can follow our path with few detours. Since we know our strengths, uncertainty disappears. Four decades of experience have given us a new viewpoint, replacing our former overconfidence.
Professionally, we feel more authority. Experience, expertise, and even past failures (that we pledge not to repeat) boost our self-confidence. “When I started my business in my mid-20s, I was often concerned about what others would think or say, which held me back,” says Karen, 44.
Today, everything is easier and more fun! I no longer need to impress. I now base my decisions on my priorities, not public opinion.
Forties-aged people around me exude confidence and composure. It feels amazing! Truly remarkable! "The confidence in my worth, both personally and professionally, empowers me," says 41-year-old Sophie. I have preferences and opinions without disrespecting others. I learned to surround myself with positive people and distance myself from negative people, even if they were once close.
I think I've focused on what important. “For years, we focused on addressing the crisis and all the disruptions it caused in our lives,” says Judith Petitpas. Later, we use it for exciting ventures. This causes many women to doubt again. Everything isn't flawless. Perimenopause and its uncertainties still affect me, therefore my emotions fluctuate. The waves are gentler and less damaging.
"As we contemplate our aspirations for the next phase of our lives, we find ourselves becoming more resilient, experiencing shorter periods of destabilisation," says the writer. Self-awareness is a powerful tool. Life is solid for me. I'll continue my many projects. I proudly proclaim: "Finally, I am becoming more and more self-aware!" daily.