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It also prevents success in life by subconsciously using sensible reasons. Unfortunately, self-sabotage keeps us victimised and unwilling to take responsibility.

Self-sabotage exploits imposter syndrome-related doubts, anxieties, and guilt.

We often get swept away by this unconscious mechanism. Not all circumstances are favourable. In most situations, the greatest impediment is oneself, who fears future changes or just confirms what one thinks of oneself "I am incapable and I would never achieve anything."

Regardless of their nature, self-sabotage and associated behaviours occur unconsciously during times of enormous change. These behaviours impair goal achievement through self-manipulation and negative unconscious beliefs.

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Self-sabotage is the product of fear-based ideas that led to failures and gained influence over time.

These symptoms indicate childhood wounds. This is crucial to recognise so you may work on it, restore self-confidence, and face what needs to be done without fear of making mistakes.

Self-sabotaging behaviours typically occur in times of significant responsibility or commitment or when a person must make a personal decision.

It's normal to feel all these feelings before huge life changes, and we all do it to a certain amount. intense.

People who self-sabotage let their negative thoughts and fear of failure to overcome them, whereas others who don't can set these fears aside and succeed.

One definition of self-sabotage is the idea that one does not deserve to succeed or be loved. It is typically unconscious and securely entrenched, and the person blames others. Which typically promotes the self-feeding negative notion.

This is because by not finishing a project, the person avoids the risk of failing or not meeting future expectations.

By doing so, the person will never realise their potential and will see themselves as mediocre and incompetent.

Procrastination is delaying important tasks in favour of less important, simpler, or more appealing ones.

One of the most widespread habits, its causes are numerous. Thus, the person may not like the task or, as is the most prevalent reason in personal and professional endeavours, be fearful of the outcome.

Thus, postponing a task and not putting in enough effort and resources will justify any mishaps. In other words, we will own our incompetence if we fail after time and effort. Instead, not trying will excuse failure.

Perfectionism—the best reason to never finish. The person hides behind perfectionism, looking for the perfect reason to stop without revealing that they don't know if they want to succeed.

The perfectionist excuse has two options. The guy either stops doing things because he can't do them well or avoids finishing the project by making changes.

The person may find numerous more reasons to avoid changes and risks. Time, money, age, and other excuses are possible.

Understanding self-sabotage methods can help us understand why we do it and fix the problem. Professional psychologist can help us identify obstacles, eliminate self-sabotage, and thrive.


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