When our actions match our words, we inspire confidence. The deed shows priorities, stated Mahatma Gandhi. His expressions are reliable. Authenticity comes from actions. Even inaction is an act.
Words can support or contradict actions. Words are more reliable when backed by similar facts. Facts supporting sentences where wishes, promises, regrets, or intentions travel. Facts boost confidence, letting us relax. This reduces tension and makes the connection more enjoyable.
If you trust significant individuals readily, you may relate. Their words and actions should match before you trust them. Think about your buddies, who, even if they don't show their emotions, are always there for you.
Actions that back up words build trust.
You will also recall folks you trusted blindly because of their wonderful remarks. People with great potential who let us down.
Without supporting evidence, words are frail in memory and space. They damage trust, making it hard to rebuild. You can't trust someone who contradicts themselves. Lack of reaction displays your life priorities.
Think about those who filled you with beautiful words. How can we not be seduced by this coming and passing of beauty and hope? We want to trust, not hurt. We form shells after much sorrow, but we want to trust.
We feel confident and calm when we trust others.
Confidence reassures us internally. An assurance that humans must keep their reason. Need congruence. Incongruence destabilises, lowers self-esteem, and alerts us. We must move on from someone who continually breaks our trust.
If we don't value trust, we'll be trampled repeatedly in relationships. We won't be respected if we don't respect ourselves. This is why we must be careful with whom we provide this lovely but fragile act of trust. Sometimes it takes guts. Does this resonate?
Always act on your words. Don't say things lightly if you're not convinced they sum up your feelings. If you're not ready to act, don't offer them. You value your words. Consistency between words and actions inspires trust.
He who lives on hopes dies on feels.
Ben Franklin
Trust and confidence underpin all essential emotional relationships. There are many friends, but just a few in capital letters. They are your allies, thus they are capitalised and bolded. Because their words and behaviours are so consistent, nothing seems to threaten your relationship and trust. You know they would warn you about problems before violating their promises.
Do you want to live in the false hopes of acts that never happen, of words that dissipate as soon as you stop saying them, or a truth stated in time? Though hurtful, does it align with the other's feelings? Instead of deceitful hopes, the truth always shows us the way.