When other people make you laugh, cry, show you a new part of yourself, or congratulate you, pay attention to how you feel and what you think about it. You might think about times when you were given a warm smile by a friend, laughed with a joke, or heard someone say something nice. When did these things happen to you? When did you feel the most happy? It's important to know what parts of your life make you happy and happy.
After you've thought about how you felt during this "aha" moment, think about what made it so special. Was the other person able to show you a side of them that you liked? No, not at all. No, I've never been interested in a situation or a job. Self-experimentation and observation are the best ways to find out about these questions. This will help you understand how you react and feel when different things and people happen in your life.
Next, pay attention to how you feel and how happy you are. Look for both arousal and calmness in your body. During activities like dancing, playing games, working on a project, or interacting with people, we become arousal. When we come into contact with things that remind us of the present moment or that are calming, we relax and feel more at ease. When you're in one or both of these states, pay attention to how you feel. Then, pay attention to your inner thoughts and the feelings and thoughts that come to mind when you are in a certain mood.
This will help you keep track of the things that happen inside your head and body when you feel arousal and relaxation. A list of two or three items should be enough for each category. Keep your list short. Then you can start directing your energy away from the bad and toward the good. If the things you have to do are making you think and feel bad, choose the positive instead. You might also want to write an inner monologue for this. Identifying your inner enemy is a good way to fight it.
Also, pay attention to your own thoughts. If you keep telling yourself that you are unhappy, find ways to convince yourself that you are happy. Think about how much fun it would be to be in a very positive mood. This will help you shift your focus from bad ideas to good ones.
Your physical state has a big impact on how you feel and what you do. When you do physical things that make you happy, endorphins are released (feel good hormones). A sense of well-being is also helped by physical activity. Physical activity makes you both happier inside and out, but a sedentary lifestyle makes you unhappy and sick.