We learn that peace is better than love over time. Only when a person achieves this inner equilibrium, where nothing is too much or insufficient, do they feel truly fulfilled. She can choose love, but it's not required.
It's strange that most individuals want the perfect companion. Mobile apps are increasing to aid these searches. TV shows that air at peak times also aim for this. We hunt this enormous ocean without first gaining self-knowledge.
Not peregrinating within ourselves to deepen our gaps and needs often leads to life partner mistakes. Our pillows hold dashed dreams and weary tears from ephemeral relationships. So much so that many individuals spend their lives hopping from stone to stone, heart to heart, storing disappointments, resentment, and tragic disenchantments.
Graham Green's work The End of an Affair shows that we may only gaze forward or backward in this context. With experience and insight, we'll follow the proper path—from within. Here, we navigate our emotions to find balance.
Tranquilly is not emotionlessness. It does not mean denying love or passion, which makes us valuable and gives us wings and roots. In all of these viewpoints, the quiet person knows where the limits are, where moderation shines our inner peace like a beacon in the night.
In our mass culture, we are encouraged to find a spouse as if this will bring us self-realization. Phrases like “When I have a boyfriend/girlfriend, my head will be more stable” and “All your sorrows will be relieved when you meet the ideal man/woman” permanently erase our identity to promote an absolute and incorrect love ideal.
Thus, the optimum human state is not to love to the point of cancellation. It's not about sacrificing everything till our vital liberties are destroyed by this terrified fear of being alone. The finest state is stillness with an appropriate inner harmony that eliminates voids, desperate attachments, and unachievable idealisations.
Despite what we hear, love does not always excuse everything. This does not mean we surrender ourselves.
In life, this happens eventually, whether you believe it or not. This is when we declare, "I want calm, I want to find my inner balance," to be peaceful. There is no better strategy to foster personal growth than promoting these adjustments.
First, we must identify our important and unsatisfactory relationships. Anyone with a toxic relationship with a loved one, friend, or coworker cannot find peace.
Step two is to resolve to stop being a victim. Our vulnerabilities, passions, and constraints make us victims. We must retrain our attitudes to gain confidence to tear down barbed wire fences.
You must achieve a magnificent level after completing the two previous stages. We must have a clear objective: happiness. Finally, we must nurture pleasure in which we feel good about ourselves, what we have, and our success. Self-love-nourished complacency will bring us balance.
Harmonious hearts and minds don't require or want love. Love does not save them because the quiet person no longer needs saving. We find love and appreciate it out of freedom and will. It's the world's most beautiful feeling.