Those who dread conflict choose silence and "let it go" to avoid confrontation and maintain tranquilly. These resistance and non-reaction dynamics keep people in a condition of discomfort, irritation, and, most importantly, dignity loss.
As evolutionary tools, fears help us survive and respond to threats. The true difficulty of modernity is that we no longer have physical predators that threaten our survival; the risks are now mostly psychiatric anxieties. Despite our wishes, it hinders our social and emotional growth.
People frightened of conflict see psychologists. This may surprise many, but it's true. These profiles are characterised by mental discourses centred on the idea of "I don't want to do or say that to avoid anger," "I don't dare say that because it might hurt them," or "I don't know how to tell them that what they did doesn't feel right."
Living in perpetual insecurity is not living. This refuge of immobility in the face of injustice is unhealthy. Being able to react to what we don't like and defend our rights is healthy. Effective conflict management helps us grow.
The individual who fears conflict silently fills a world of rage and anguish. She achieves it by swallowing what hurts and giving something up. That balloon burst in his hands too late.
Early retirement reduces disputes. This is something we all know and have tried at some point, and it usually works. However, retirement dependence is not always acceptable. Not when we must defend, demarcate, and react to injustices. Avoidance will eventually trap us in a cycle of misery and harm.
Almost unknowingly, we will endure unwelcome conditions. We shall cede control to others and melt our boundaries like sugar in coffee. Conflict-phobic people see doctors because they somatize their frustration (muscle discomfort, digestive issues, ulcers, cold sores, etc.). Mental issues including anxiety disorders are also present.
Asking what causes this corrosive fear of disagreement makes it difficult to create a profile that works for everyone. However, let's examine certain traits that define them more often.
We visualise a battlefield only by saying “conflict”. A hostile situation where words fly and stick, differences lead to insult, and differences are so far apart that we lose everything. We must modify the chip and reimagine this idea.
People who fear fighting must understand several things. First, these occurrences can be quite favourable. Resolving these discrepancies heals our identity, self-esteem, and daily relationships and social circumstances. Conflict can develop anywhere—in the grocery wait, with our partner, children, coworkers, etc.
Passivity or escapism isolates us from our societal responsibility. We must know how to reach consensus, discuss, solve difficulties, negotiate, and satisfy our own demands and integrity. You can do it, but it takes practice, perseverance, and social skills, emotional control, and self-awareness training. Stop avoiding ourselves and face life for well-being.