Some still equate self-esteem and ego. This is natural since we are taught to think about others from an early age. Even as adults, self-interest is selfish.
But what happens when we confuse self-esteem and ego? When we put others before ourselves, seek external praise, and feel guilty when we want to say “no” but have to say “yes” to avoid appearing selfish.
This uncertainty causes us to forget to listen to ourselves and value ourselves, which disconnects us from our needs. So here are 7 self-esteem vs. ego distinctions.
A big-ego person admires oneself too much. She becomes egocentric and sees the world distortedly. The main problem with this type of people is that they think they are better than others and that everything they do is great.
However, a person with strong self-esteem values himself realistically. She knows her strengths and weaknesses and doesn't try to hide them. Instead, she embraces them and seeks solutions to her issues.
In the second point, self-esteem and ego are clearly distinguished. Egoists just care about themselves. He must be the centre of attention. If not, he gets angry if he feels ignored.
Positively self-esteemed people worry about themselves and others. Unlike someone with an ego, she listens and doesn't want to be the centre of attention. A person with high self-esteem understands empathy and enjoys richer relationships.
When we engage with an egotist, we immediately see they can't look past their own convictions. Waiting for her to ask will be impossible. She believes her vision is the only valid one, which causes many disputes.
A person with high self-esteem may see beyond their own perspective. She realises that others may think differently and be interested in them. These connections are healthy and beneficial when you listen, put yourself in the other's shoes, and learn a new viewpoint.
A person with ego cannot empathise or put himself in others' shoes, unlike someone with self-esteem. Having a healthy self-esteem is important. An egotist doesn't love or respect himself. She hides just what she doesn't like. This makes it hard for him to see beyond it.
A person with an ego will not accept any criticism that contradicts their inflated self-image. Any hint that her flaws are exposed will make her defensive, furious, and blame others.
However, persons with healthy self-esteem can see their defects and accept constructive criticism. Instead of being negative, they may enjoy it. As long as it's constructive criticism.
Everyone has fallen prey to the ego. Face it instead of denying it to realise it may be harbouring self-esteem issues.
We're not fit enough? Why are we insecure? Why do we seek attention? Think about it. High self-esteem cannot coexist with ego.