How to give constructive criticism?

People contact us daily. We see attitudes we want to modify in them daily. However, explaining what is wrong is difficult, and we may criticise our interlocutor when we meant no harm. Poor criticism does not improve.

We rarely speak our minds because we don't want to be critics. So we hold everything in until the vase overflows and everything comes out at once with tornado-like energy. Unfortunately, we don't choose the greatest way or time to communicate what we think.

We can improve our critiques, though! Instead of being negative, they should be constructive and based on the positive so the other person takes it well and improves.

Criticism expresses our feelings about someone whose behaviour, attitude, or work we dislike. Before making one, we must ask: why? Answering this question determines whether criticism is constructive or damaging.

Constructive criticism is labelled “suggestions for improvement” to avoid its negative connotation. We need this kind of advice in life and relationships. They help us increase social support, for example.

For what? Because they improve relationships. How can our interlocutor know whether their actions affect us unless we tell them? Nobody is a soothsayer, and we expect others to figure out what works when it's easier to explain. This causes a lot of conflict. directly.

Can we help the other person feel better? We must communicate well because we cannot tell how he will react. Thus, the person will better comprehend our perspective, making conflict less likely.

When giving constructive criticism or suggestions, there are various elements to consider. First, pick the correct time. If the other person is furious or disturbed, he will likely misinterpret what we say, even if we take it lightly.

When uncomfortable behaviour occurs, be brave and provide constructive criticism. Take the other person's perspective: is it not easier to fix anything that's wrong with us if we're told it multiple times than once? We will then realise that this is an ingrained behaviour that must be corrected.

We all need to improve, but we can do so if told little by little. Prepare alternatives to the object of criticism, such as mentioning something nice about the situation or our relationship.

Two methods are used to make suggestions delicately and effectively. The first method is sandwich reinforcement. This is easy to put up: the two slices of bread in the sandwich represent two good qualities of our relationship with the person we wish to deliver constructive criticism to. Criticism is the middle food. So one can state something good, suggest an improvement, and end with another positive.

appreciate "Pierre, I like that we live together, but I think you could clean your pan when you finish cooking so that everything is clean, that way we enjoy being together more, I like it when we spend some time together." You may initially find the formula artificial, but you'll apply it intuitively.

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