How to regain control of your life after being in prolonged pain

We're tired of self-criticism, dwelling in previous mistakes, and opening masochistic wounds. So many awful things happen in life that we keep thinking about how we live.

Some folks always balance and don't cry. Others have been through this valley of tears many times and understand it.

You must believe in yourself. The secret is there. Even when I was in the orphanage and travelling the streets for food, I thought I was the greatest actor. Failure awaits without perfect self-confidence. Live is a play without repetitions. So sing, laugh, dance, cry, and experience every minute before the curtain falls and the show closes without applause.

Charlie Chaplin

However, some people develop a fatigue and laziness in following the same route of overly powerful emotions, either because they can no longer handle it or because they have realised it is useless.

Don't worry about this new emotion if you're at this stage. When life drains your energy, you're ready for a new stage. One that will be great and bring numerous benefits.

You're ready for a great new stage.
If he doesn't call or text you, you won't wonder what's wrong, you'll assume this person wasn't suitable for you, and you'll move on with a new, great indifference.

When life says you're prepared for a new stage, you'll realise you behave because you want to, not because others approve. Think less, worry less, and feel more.

You'll also appreciate life's tiny joys. People you don't always notice. Slamming doors and keys will end the scenes, and you will realise that caring for yourself does not make you selfish.

Additionally, you will cease comparing yourself to others. You will realise that you are the mirror you can use to improve. You will be the model for life improvement.

You will learn to accept and deliver constructive feedback. You'll be confident enough to avoid parties with unlikable folks. You don't care about appearances right now.

You will contribute without expecting anything in return, but you will learn your generosity and interest limits. Your scorn and comment analysis will end. This period is for essential planning. Knowing that no one will do it for you will help you improve at whatever you do.

Playing the victim doesn't work. You will own your life and accept defeat. When you know support is available and from sincere people, you'll ask for it.

You may wonder how you wasted so much time pleasing individuals you didn't like and how you let certain comments influence you so much. It will only last a few minutes because you will realise how delighted you are.

You know few buddies provide a bed and security. Having too much does not mean more support. You recognise that each step strengthens your ideals and replaces laziness with willpower.

Technology will help you communicate, but you won't let it control you. Negative comments will be ignored. Problems are inevitable. But your experience will help you understand and address them. You will behave more without worrying.

You may not have deserved so many disappointments, but you have turned suffering into maturity, calm, and tranquilly. Since you're happy to meet yourself and others (even if you don't care), this side of you is irresistible. Nothing attracts like self-confidence and mental health.

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