The negative impacts of denial have been my focus in recent years. My biggest surprise is how much our ego convinces us that rejecting reality and feelings will make us happier.
Most people are unaware of their denial. Just what is DENIAL? A defence tactic, they say. We believe we cannot handle reality, either because we cannot face it, find a solution, or suffer to the point of fearing death. Most people are unaware of this last fear.
After studying soul wounds and denial, I've found that it's one of the anxieties related with REJECTION. The INJUSTICE wound must be strong enough to continue denial for years.
Different ways to deny.
Escape into an imaginative world or the astral effortlessly to escape what is spoken or happening. These people are often told they are not there, don't listen, or interrupt often because they haven't followed the topic.
Trying to convince others not to care about a person/situation when they disagree.
When discussing a topic, emphasise its insignificance.
Not tired or achy.
Prefer to show excellent work ethic while denying limits.
Having trouble admitting you detest or resent your same-sex parent.
Avoiding reality. Feeling useless and thinking others do too. These outcomes may occur:
Habitually misinterpreting others. By believing the other criticises.
Withdraw, ignore, and don't voice your opinion, thinking you're not significant enough.
Keep yourself alone and avoid socialising.
Being uncomfortable talking about your difficulties because you don't want to accept they're a problem or don't think anyone cares.
This little list can help you spot denial. Because of rejection, we all live in denial to some extent.
Because we feed our worries in denial, they grow. We panic more and faster (even if we hide it). Our bodies tyre and get sick this way. This is usually a serious sickness.
Not without reason is the mask connected with rejection termed the fugitive. Running away from reality—both inside and outside—is denial. We are not injured because our parents or family rejected us. The hurt we've carried for lifetimes causes rejection. Our incarnation seeks to overcome self-worthlessness.
All souls want to rediscover true self-love and allow themselves to be human with ups and downs, strengths and weaknesses, virtues and mistakes.
We reject each other differently. Some reject themselves 90%, others 20%, finding themselves useless. The longer we reject ourselves, the more significant it is.
It can also prevent illness. It's not the rejection wound that causes many illnesses—we all have it—but the years of denial.
I conclude this article by emphasising denying awareness. Give yourself permission to be less perfect to feel it less often.