If this idea makes you react, would everything be allowed cause chaos?
To prohibit implies to prevent, make impossible, or make something impossible to do, have, say, or be. Must “not do”. Prohibiting anything indicates controlling, which is antithesis of unconditional love.
We control, not self-control. Control comes from our ego, not our heart. Our ego tries to tell us our desires are wrong. He always tries to make us feel terrible for disobeying. His speciality is warning us against new ways of acting or thinking based on old experiences and frightening us if we defy him.
We must first accept ourselves and allow ourselves to choose. True self-love involves allowing yourself to HAVE, DO, SAY, or BE whatever you want, recognising that our actions have consequences. Loving oneself requires risking new experiences and remembering that there is always something to learn.
True self-love is ideal when we can be grateful for a bad mistake that taught us not to make it. It hurt us more than it helped. This lets us make new decisions based on love rather than ego. This makes us responsible and makes the world smarter.
Without experiencing an activity, it's hard to predict its results. Choosing not to do it based on others' results is like prohibiting yourself. Even so, we sometimes give up on a dream because we mistrust or fear the repercussions. We choose based on our limits, not a ban. Respecting ourselves is wise if we believe we cannot handle any consequence.
Make your decision out of self-love, not fear. Check whether this consequence is real first. Let's say Janine wants to spend a few days off with a friend because she's had too many job and home issues in recent months. of her job, partner, and two kids.
She doesn't want to tell her husband because she's afraid he'll get angry, tell her he has problems, say he deserves a vacation, and think she doesn't love him anymore because she wants to go with a friend. As she thinks about it, her imagination convinces her that leaving could end her relationship. She ignores her urge since she is not ready for this consequence.
A few days later, she told a workmate that all her anxieties were imaginary and that she should have the courage to ask her husband if her assumptions were genuine. She also suggests she tell her husband she loves him and is just filling a need.
This illustrates the importance of listening to your wants and loving yourself rather than denying yourself something your ego doesn't like.
Finally, remember that only you can choose your life when a little voice forbids you. Consider what's best for you. Thus, you will adore yourself and gradually find it easier to choose.