Why dependent people can't stand being abandoned

Dependent people cannot live alone. They rapidly seek someone to fill the emptiness after a breakup.

Problem: dependent people need someone to complete them. Therefore, when the other goes, they are helpless.

Sometimes their connections are founded on need, not love. This leads to boredom, disputes, and fatigue.

Addicts don't realise they're addicted until anxiety, despair, and misery set in.

When this happens, people try to break the cycle of reliance. A difficult issue that turns out hard.

Almost every element of life requires boundaries. You may enjoy drinking alcohol, but you know that too much or daily will harm your health.

In relationships with addicts, they always give in to dislikes. They do it to avoid losing to their neighbour.

Thus, they are abused and have low self-esteem. People who avoid being themselves for fear of rejection.

They skip what they need to avoid feeling empty again.

Whom addicted persons are with varies. They change depending on their companion.

Anyone will tell you that you can and should continue your old hobbies even if you're dating. However, addicts change.

She starts to like whatever the other does, forgetting what she liked before.

It also starts an obsessive-compulsive drive to always think about and do for the person.

Your life changes radically with your lover. An unjustified situation.

This happens why? Because dependents don't regard themselves as two autonomous subjects sharing a life. They see the partnership as two people combining.

When your happiness or sadness depends on someone else's behaviour, we have a problem.

You lose control of your emotions and the other takes over.

An insult, your partner disregarding you... Everything will convert a good day into a sad one.

You can't say your feelings change with others. She does not control your sentiments or you.

You allow this even though it makes you uncomfortable.

If you started it, that doesn't imply you didn't. You've undoubtedly done it with someone else waiting.

Emotionally dependant people never leave their lover until they have a replacement.

If not, she fears abandonment and goes out of her way to please others.

This creates an urgent need for control, which is often unachievable. This causes misery, anxiety, and despair.

You're unhappy but can't leave.
Though you say you are, you don't know happiness. Your panic attacks occur whenever you're alone.

You depend on people for your daily dose. You can't handle abstinence syndrome if they leave you.

Addicts should not believe there is no cure. Not seeing the situation from another angle is your problem.

To avoid clinging to someone to feel full, practise being alone.

Before leaving, don't miss: I had to leave someone to recover control.

Quitting an addiction is hard, but who said it's easy?

Once you learn to be kind to yourself, you can be with someone without needing to.

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