If we want to remember someone who has died, we should think of their smile.
It makes us feel good, which can help us not hurt their image even if they make us sad and unhappy.
But there are stages of grief that help us handle our feelings, thoughts, actions, and emotions after losing someone we care about.
It's important to remember that we will never get used to losing loved ones, and that each loss will be a task that takes a lot of work to get through.
It takes more than just saying "goodbye" to the dead.
Sometimes we feel like we have to stop "thinking, feeling, or even living" because we've lost someone. It's all part of the process. These are the steps:
Elisabeth Klüber-Ross is an expert on grief. She says that when we first get hurt, we try to ignore reality and tell ourselves things like "everything is fine" or "this person's death was a mistake."
We need time to get over the shock of losing someone, so this bad mood is normal and will pass.
We need to clear our minds before we can accept a painful truth.
Our defence mechanism helps us keep our emotions in check so we can calmly think of a way to deal with this event.
We will finally realise that we lost this person. We feel like a knife is stuck in our chest and we can't breathe because of this loss, so we often want to "get even."
"Do everything to find a life that is worth living despite the absence of the other" is something that many of us believe, whether we are aware of it or not.
We might even think about getting back together with loved ones or putting off mourning. We talk to a higher power and ask for more time or a chance to show our love.
Sometimes the only way to understand death is to feel stuck, slowed down, and sad.
We cry our hearts out and can't move on at this point.
We may come to understand that death is final and that a loved one's smile is the best way to remember them.
We can't talk about a loss in terms of whether we can overcome it or not, because that would mean denying truth and accepting the other person.
Know that death is a part of life. You should let yourself feel what's going on and not try to "get better" right away.
We need to take a moment to think about what this loss means to us and make plans for how to move forward.
For every loss, we have to deal with our own happy experiences.
The smiles of these people will finally stop bothering us and help us remember that they are always in our hearts, even though they are not physically present.