Unless we want others to do the same to us, we shouldn't criticise them without understanding their life. Due to appearances, prejudices can keep us from finding great people.
Fashionable sport: judging others. However, the judge defines himself, not the judged. I suppose we all do it unknowingly.
We judge everything around us because we govern by labelling things.
“Good or bad, I don't trust this person; I should steer clear of them…”
Many people fall into prejudices and preconceived notions. However, digging deeper and putting oneself in the other person's shoes is harder.
Not everyone behaves this way. Some people quickly avoid judging since they don't appreciate being judged. Everyone should practise this to create a more peaceful and tolerant society.
Judging is a double-edged sword we should avoid.
Don't judge today. Look at the world calmly and impartially today. Just “be” and “let be”.
It would be great if we all followed this easy suggestion daily. Thus, we would have more respectful interactions and fewer conflict.
Now the main issue is that our social brains are typically driven by the need to swiftly learn about things and people.
Divide all information and stimuli into categories to determine your personality based on past experiences.
Take an example. Your school years were ruined by a cruel teacher. Today, you remember his expressions and face. Therefore, when you encounter someone who looks like them, you strongly reject them.
Our past experiences and personality traits enable us to identify others according to assumed patterns that don't always match reality.
Being calm is essential to "not judging" and getting closer to others.
The "automatic button" in our brain that judges and categorises everything we see must be controlled.
In reality, your judgement defines you. Closed-minded racism occurs when you shun your neighbours because they are from another culture.
The man who assesses a lady by her skirt length also considers himself masculine.
When judging someone, we should reflect. Why think this? Why do I fear I won't like this boy with ripped trousers and tattoos?
Think carefully, behave calmly, and be impartial. Remind yourself that you lack the information to assess objectively.
Nuance matters. We have the right to defend our opinions regarding our surroundings. Judgements must be founded on facts, not stereotypes or banalities.
You can decide if you like someone and if they meet your expectations by getting to know them.
You should know that people who judge only on petty matters miss life's best.
You may miss a great colleague if you judge them by their manner.
People often comment “this country is dirty, dangerous or not very modern”. They may be missing life's best. They refuse to know a place that is amazing if you ignore prejudice.
Some of the best objects and people lie beneath impenetrable shells.
Only those who open their hearts without judgement will know the amazing things around us.