"I don't think I'll be able to succeed," "I lack self-assurance," "I question my worthiness," "I feel inadequate." ...
"I feel inadequate, it's beyond my capabilities" , "I won't be able to match his abilities" , "I'm concerned about my age..." ......
That small voice inside you has probably come up to you before, almost like an unconscious thought. Something that is stopping you from achieving certain goals, wants, or opportunities.
Hello and welcome to the fascinating world of limiting ideas.
How do we rate how well we did?
When we look at ourselves, we often see the worst in us more than anyone else.
For example, while you're having a party at your house, a friend accidentally breaks a vase that you really love. You tell her that it doesn't matter much and reassure her that it wasn't meant to be that way. To sum up, you want to handle the case carefully so that you don't make her too upset.
Instead of
The same decor, but this time you knock over the vase by chance. Things will get worse. When you feel frustrated and disappointed, you might ask yourself how such mistakes could have been made. Seeing people act so badly can be depressing.
It's something we've all seen happen. What does this situation show about how we act?
It's clear that the other side is more important than us.
When I speak, I think about how my words might affect other people and try to avoid hurting them. Our method is different in this case.
It's clear that a vase doesn't change much about people's lives. But there are many other situations that are more important and make us react in the same way.
Why not think about responding the same way to yourself? And why do we not care about ourselves so much?
When we look at ourselves, we clearly have a bias towards either a good or negative view. From today on, we will talk about the negative judgement and save the positive judgement for another time.
Negative decisions made without looking at things from other points of view are not a sign of strength; they are a sign of weakness. There is no deep thinking behind it; instead, it comes from an instinctual response, a raw response to something new.
For example, you just started a new job at a different company and have a new responsibility. You work hard every day to figure out how this company works while also trying to get used to the new ways of doing things.
Also, no, you're not fully functional yet; you just got here.
Your boss comes to see you in the middle of the afternoon and says that this job needs a lot of organisation... Finally, what are you going to say? What ideas are you going to think about?
"I'm not fast enough," he said...
There is a chance that he won't keep me.
He's not a good fit for my job, etc.
You will carefully think about everything and think about the situation for a long time...
Of course, this kind of case keeps coming up!
Thank you for sharing this article. I read through it and found it to be very insightful. You did a great job of explaining how our personal beliefs can sometimes be false, and how we can work to overcome these beliefs. I especially appreciated your emphasis on the importance of self-reflection and self-awareness. It’s important to take the time to examine our beliefs and question whether they are truly serving us. You also provides some helpful tips for how to identify and challenge our false beliefs. Overall, I found this article to be very thought-provoking and inspiring.
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