Strengthening self-control by understanding the world, our thoughts and feelings

Self-control is the ability to keep our feelings in check, especially strong ones like anger.

People use their ability to control when they stay focused on a job they need to finish without getting sidetracked.

But what happens if we are constantly pushed to go beyond our limits? How can I get more self-control? What does this make you think about?

Like other feelings, anger helps us respond to things going on around us in a way that fits with our culture.

Getting angry for a long time, on the other hand, can lead us to do things we later regret that hurt our self-esteem and get in the way of our goals.

The moment we are faced with something annoying, anger usually appears out of nowhere and makes it hard to think clearly.

It's often caused by violence, even if it's not shown, or by situations that limit our rights and/or wants.

People who really look at themselves would find that anger often hides other emotions, like fear of getting hurt or even sadness from failing.

Putting limits on your actions is often linked to the idea of "self-control." However, working on this skill means doing things that might have an impact on other people.

Another skill we work on in therapy is the ability to observe one's own behaviour. The goal is to find and understand trouble spots and the characteristics of these situations.

Drive and the benefits of having more self-control go hand in hand with our role in learning and changing.

When we realise that the things we don't like about ourselves show in the things we do, we stop feeling bad about them, defending them, or blaming other people for them.

Realising that we can make choices helps us stay cool and reduces the number of times we lose our temper.

When we talk about self-control, we need to make sure that the new systems we set up don't change based on what's going on around them.

*Name two or three events in the past few months that really affected you. Adding one or more that you think you've shown enough feeling for, along with one that you don't think you have, is recommended. What differences have you seen?

When dealing with someone who is making you feel bad, take a moment to count to ten and think about how you would like them to treat you if they were you.

Putting off the chat until later would be best if you are really tired. Some people think it's better to end a story when they're tired, just to get it over with. But sometimes it's better to hold back.

–> Another very helpful way to handle your feelings is to practise relaxation regularly.

Focusing on feelings like anger will help you make big changes and learn new ways to react.

To have more self-control, we need to be aware of and make connections between our ideas, feelings, actions, and view of the world.

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