More people are losing their inner kid.
From birth, adults encourage us to be “normal” like them. We develop a personality to meet adult needs. Adults forget (or almost forget) their “I am”.
Adults' behaviour towards children who insist on being themselves shows how profoundly suppressed their inner child is. Repressing the inner child might hinder spontaneity, creativity, honesty, self-expression, trust in the Universe, naturalness, and self-respect.
Adults teach morality from a young age: good, bad, correct, not correct, supposed, not supposed, normal, not normal, etc.
The pure youngster unaffected by adulthood does not bother about these mind-made criteria. He “is” himself. He is spontaneous, does not analyse what he should do, say, or feel, and accepts his mistakes without condemning himself.
When we judge or criticise ourselves, we base it on prior lessons. Thus, the intellect, with its memory, guides us. Consider the holidays and their customs. Their clothes, hair, and behaviour must match our adult standards.
We buy our kids the things we wish we had gotten as kids and expect gratitude. If a child refuses to kiss all his relatives and aunts, we fight, scold, and attempt everything to change his opinion.
We're teaching him that being spontaneous and oneself is wrong and making him feel like we don't love him. He learns that copying others increases affection. If the youngster believes this, he represses part of himself and risks doing pirouettes to be liked as an adult.
Let our thinking (intellect) control our behaviour and life gets weighty. Before acting, we must always consult it. We voluntarily become his prisoner. Since we elected our mind as master, we no longer control our life.
If we act on our intuition or inclinations without checking with the thinking and they contradict the latter, we feel guilty. We must punish and suffer because we've found ourselves guilty. We suppress our joy of life. The more we blame ourselves, the more we evaluate ourselves, making it harder to be creative.
Instead of "inventing" anything, being creative is knowing what we want, deciding to make it happen, and taking action. Being creative is part of being present.
Mechanically repeating an action is not in the present moment since we use something we've learnt. Creating makes us happy. We no longer sense an emptiness we must fill no matter what. When we allow ourselves to be led at a young age, it becomes hard to have self-confidence and act without fear in adulthood.
We forget the benefits of an experience, even if it doesn't go as planned. To be creative without stress, we must be open to all possible outcomes and recognise that there are no mistakes, only experiences, and that we always gain something from them. Trust in the Universe grows this way.
The uninfluenced child does not worry about his next meal or day. His behaviour is like a bird trying to fly swiftly to gain experience. He doesn't question how or why. His spontaneity is natural.
As he learns about adults' minds and strange behaviour, the youngster analyses and asks "why". He's worried and wants to know. Then his anxieties start; he slowly adapts to adult logic; he loses his spontaneity and risk-taking.